Jill of a lot of trades

What jobs have you had?

A jack of all trades is a master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one” Author Unknown

Jill of All Trades and Master of… Enough

I come from a line of women who wore many hats before it became a trendy thing to say. Women who didn’t need business cards to prove their skills. They just did. My grandmothers and aunties could cook a whole feast, sew you a dress, press your hair, run a juke joint, manage money from the numbers game, and still show up with their heads held high. They were resourceful, resilient, and sharp—and that spirit runs through me.

So yes, I’m a Jill of all trades. It’s not a joke or a side comment—it’s a legacy.

I’ve been many things in this life. I’ve worked in fast food—Taco Bell, Wendy’s, Potbelly’s. I scooped ice cream in a corner store, made plates at a soul food carry out, cleaned buildings as an environmental specialist at Howard University. And for the past sixteen years, I’ve been working as an escrow officer and title manager in the real estate title insurance field.

I’ve started multiple microbusinesses—some fizzled, some paused, and one was really taking off until life brought a storm. I lost my father. The world shut down. Dreams had to be folded and stored away for a while. But I never stopped dreaming. Never stopped creating.

In the background, I was helping build other businesses—my ex-husband’s ventures, friends’ side projects. Always the behind-the-scenes glue holding things together.

And now? Now I’m leaning fully into what sets my soul on fire.
I’m making music.
I’m writing—blogging like this, sharing my journey and my truth.
I’m creating content that feels like me.
And I’m launching my own online storefront, a space for the things I’ve made and believe in.

There was a time I felt ashamed of this path. Like I was all over the place, with no clear direction. No degree to fall back on. Just experience. Just intuition. Just grit. And for a while, I believed that wasn’t enough. I believed the world when it told me I needed to follow a script that was never written for someone like me in the first place.

But now? I’ve come to understand that what I once saw as scattered was actually rich. Layered. Full.

Every job, every skill, every twist in the road—it was all part of preparing me for this season. For my next act. For something that looks like wholeness.

So when people ask me, “What jobs have you had?” I smile. Because I’ve done a little bit of everything. And in doing all of that, I found myself.

I may not be a “master” by the textbook definition. But I’ve mastered showing up. I’ve mastered rebuilding. I’ve mastered holding space for growth and grace and still making time for joy.

This post isn’t just a look back—it’s also a quiet heads-up that there’s more coming. More music. More writing. More creations made with love.

If you’ve connected with any part of my journey, feel free to explore what I’m building:

I’m not just a Jill of all trades. I’m a woman walking fully in her purpose, bringing all those trades along with her.

EssieB in stxingkai font

Reflections of Essie B

Bear with me, as this rant unloads. Early morning thoughts were put in writing.

I believe that taking ownership of my life has been a major game changer. It has significantly impacted the current direction and decisions I have been making. I am not a passenger in this ride called life. I am the captain of this ship called ME. Life isn’t just happening to me. It’s happening for me.
I only concentrate and focus on the things that I can control, and that is myself. I can’t lie. The messy stuff and drama sometimes still gets to me. Sometimes, folks bring me into their messes. For the most part, I ignore it. This has improved both my mental health and stress levels enormously.
I have also learned to try to keep a balance in my life as well. Everything in life needs balance to it. Can’t swing the pendulum too far to the left or too far to the right. There is a need for equilibrium in all things. As humans, we tend by nature to do that.

Another thing we do, as humans, is categorizing everything. If it doesn’t fit into our neat little boxes, we spit out an error message of “we can’t compute”. A lot of people these days walk around with CPUs aka “brains” fried. It’s amazing how we as humans work. I also realize that some of us are spiritual beings having a human experience. Some of us are human beings with a spirit. A small group of us are just humans. That’s a whole ‘nother conversation for another time or day.

Lastly, I realize we all have free will in life, and so I can’t control anything or anyone. I can influence, intimidate or motivate, but actually make someone do something is a no. That includes kids as well. There are some gangsta kids out here. They are willing to take the smoke for what it is they’re about to do. And then there are the ones who play it safe all the time, like I did mostly. Didn’t get me anywhere different, so what the what.

That’s all for my morning rants and random thoughts. 🤷🏾‍♀️

What are your random thoughts?