Life with EssieB

My lifestyle changes so far……

Daily writing prompt

Describe one positive change you have made in your life.

Whew chile, the last few years have been a whole situation. But lately? Lately, something different has been brewing. As of late, I have been on a health kick. I turned 40 in 2024 and have been battling health issues from chronic stress and just life in general. Life has been lifing like crazy with me. Life straight up threw hands with me for the past five years. From the never-ending chaos of the pandemic and all that civil unrest, to the gut punches of losing family back-to-back-to-back, navigating a divorce after all that time, and then my health throwing its own tantrums? It has honestly felt like one continuous battle.

Earlier this year, I decided to improve my health and committed to doing what I really needed to in order to get to where I needed in my journey. As time marches on and my sons get older, I am reminded that I want to have the energy to move and grow and just BE. My pastor cousin dropped that truth bomb years ago in marriage enrichment – ‘You can’t pour from an empty cup.’ It sounds simple, right? But for so long, I was running on fumes, always putting everybody else first. It took hitting a wall to finally let that sink in.

I say all this to say: one positive change I made in my life so far was being intentional with any steps that I am making to improve my health. And let me tell y’all something – this new chapter? It’s about being intentional. Every step I take for my health, I’m doing it unapologetically. If my body’s talking, I’m listening. If I feel I need something, I’m asking. And if I wanna do something for my own well-being? I’m doing it. Period. No permission slips needed from NOBODY. Only person judging me is my Creator and we are in constant talks (need to do more consistently and regularly and sometimes their arguments but I digress-LOL). So here I am, about to step into 41 with a clarity that my younger selves could only dream of. This isn’t about perfection; it’s about progress and finally feeling good in my own skin. And honestly? I am absolutely LOVING this journey. I am LOVING IT!

Tech in Real Estate & Law

Posted on March 26 by EssieB

How has technology changed your job?

Technology has made many aspects of my job easier for me personally. For others who adapt less and then come to me to argue or blame tech, it has made it hard.

Relatable Struggles of Tired Moms: A Survival Guide

Posted on August 9, 2023 by EssieB

I’m a tired mommy. I’m sure you are too. We’re all in this together.

There are good days and there are bad days. There are ugly days, too. But we keep going. We keep fighting. We keep being the best moms we can be.

On the good days, my kids make me laugh. They make me smile. They make me feel loved. They make me feel like I can do anything.

On the bad days, my kids drive me crazy. They fight with each other. They don’t listen. They make messes. They make me want to pull my hair out.

On the ugly days, I’m exhausted. I’m overwhelmed. I’m stressed. I’m questioning my sanity. I’m wondering if I’m cut out for this motherhood thing after all.

But then I wake up the next day and I do it all over again. Because I love my kids. And I know that they love me too.

So to all the tired moms out there, I see you. I hear you. I feel you. We’re in this together.

Here are a few tips for surviving the tired mommy chronicles:

Take care of yourself. This is so important. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, eating healthy foods, and exercising regularly. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Ask for help. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from your partner, friends, family, or even a professional. You don’t have to do this alone.
Take breaks. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a break. Go for a walk, take a bath, or read a book. Do something that will help you relax and recharge.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day chaos. But it’s important to remember that the small stuff doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
Have fun. Make sure you’re still enjoying your life. Spend time with your kids doing things that you all enjoy. Make memories that you’ll cherish forever.

Being a tired mommy is hard work. But it’s also the most rewarding job in the world. So keep your head up, mamas. We’re doing great.